Marriage and the Communication Dilemma.
We have a teenage daughter who is delightful, energetic and responsible. That is, she responds to a voice within her that listens to a beat I can't quite hear. I have my own (inner) voices and although I am not schizoid yet, I do hear voices from my Swiss past that create dissonance with this good daughter as we talk about chores, friendships, social media and homework. We define certain words differently - clean room is one, bedtime another. These words convey certain values and carry meaning that without a strenuous family seminar on their proper usage, we both believe we actually understood each other when in fact I was talking space alien and she was talking street.Add a comment
We were never meant to build silos around our families. Yet that is what we do and, whatever the reason for it, it doesn't serve our relationships well.Add a comment
There’s a great deal of advice floating around our there – “ten tips for lovers;” “what to buy so you don’t look like you’re buying her off;” “create a dreamy evening just for him” – all good, all doable. But we had to ask (it’s our job) this: “what does Valentine’s Day really have to do with our marriage?” Here’s a couple of thoughts to add to your kitchen drawer clippings:Add a comment
“I’ve had to do a lot of growing up in my marriage and have had to learn how to stop pointing fingers and instead take inventory and look at what my responsibility is”... “being a worshipped rock star it’s easy to convince yourself that you deserve love and you should be loved, but I’ve had to learn how to be better at how to love someone else” - Bono (introducing the release of his latest CD)Add a comment