We’ve created a new and innovative way to work with marriage challenges. Stephen W. Frueh PhD is a marriage coach who works with couples in making changes now. Based on his intensive work in ‘The Marriage Conversation’ he has created an easily teachable model for understanding why couples lose their way ( the pre divorce challenge), how couples can rebirth and reimagine their relationship ( commitment and change) and create new pathways to intimacy (physical, emotional and spiritual intimacy).
The Marriage Conversation coaching model is contained in With These Rings and From Marginal to Magnificent: How to Make your Marriage Sing. A third book by Dr. Frueh, The Heart of a Wedding will be released Winter 2010.
Would it be too much to ask? Ask whether the so called 'weekend' was what you wanted. What you signed up for. To ask a question dripping with meaning – why? Why did I do what I did? Why didn't I do what I thought I'd do? Why did I spend time with ____ and not with _____?
Purpose, Intention, Meaning .. when missing, dumb us down. We become extensions of someone else, or of an agenda we didn't create. We live 'as if.' And we suffer for the lack of true involvement with our own decisions, our purpose.Add a comment
The world offers its things to worry about. About as often, people offer their idiosyncrasies to us to distract or annoy us. We live in a sensory whirlpool of – "urgently needed" products, sensational news, endless demands for our attention. What we need we don't get.
We don't because we fail to recognize its importance. We numb down to the whirlpool's noise and force. We distract ourselves believing we're living when we are really on sensory overload.Add a comment
Show don't Tell
When my wife recently challenged my purchase of a new laptop (top end with all the bells and whistles) with a "did we really need to spend that much? question, I saw a moment of opportunity. "Look" I said as I turned the laptop towards her - clean new keys glistening, ease of use, graphics beyond anyone's wildest expectations...Add a comment
Marriage and the Communication Dilemma.
We have a teenage daughter who is delightful, energetic and responsible. That is, she responds to a voice within her that listens to a beat I can't quite hear. I have my own (inner) voices and although I am not schizoid yet, I do hear voices from my Swiss past that create dissonance with this good daughter as we talk about chores, friendships, social media and homework. We define certain words differently - clean room is one, bedtime another. These words convey certain values and carry meaning that without a strenuous family seminar on their proper usage, we both believe we actually understood each other when in fact I was talking space alien and she was talking street.Add a comment
Many time people consider Divorce when they really ought to learn how to end (divorce) the stale and worn out agreement they have called marriage...
Many marriages end before they begin. They abort the promises made at the alter of commitment. Divorce is an attempt to solve complex problems by means of a simple yet profoundly invasive surgery.
But if you rethink what marriage is really about, you'll discover a deeper and more profound truth. Marriage is a choice to build a partnership over time. You might think of a partnership as a container meant to hold two people in relationship while they each, in their own unique way, grow. Thinking of marriage in this way opens to thinking of marriage as a fundamental piece in community building as well as community healthfulness.Add a comment