discovering new pathways to intimacy in marriage
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There’s a great deal of advice floating around our there – “ten tips for lovers;” “what to buy so you don’t look like you’re buying her off;” “create a dreamy evening just for him” – all good, all doable. But we had to ask (it’s our job) this: “what does Valentine’s Day really have to [...]
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The most difficult challenge I have in coaching couples into song is this: belief. One word, belief. We all seem hard wired to exaggerate what’s missing in our relationships and to minimize what’s good.
So what do I want couples to believe? What is it that healthy couples carry around with them that struggling couples lack? [...]
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It’s no mystery to any of us married for more than a little while that marriage is both opportunity and challenge. Challenge because you signed on for a personal growth course when you said ‘I do’ and are just now realizing it.
Challenge because the one you chose isn’t at all who you thought they [...]
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No doubt about it. Letterman helped himself. He created the illusion of sincere, hip and funny all at once. It wasn’t funny. It really wasn’t hip, unless of course, you’re a Peter Pan man.
He gave us a line or two about ‘Lutheran guilt’ and said he was loaded with it – but showed no evidence [...]
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Here are five critical questions you must ask before you give up on your marriage.
1. Ask yourself: Who am I wanting to divorce?
2. Self Audit: What don’t I bring to this Marriage?
3. Who is truly helped by my decision?
4. Have I created an irresistible invitation to get both of us involved with a professional coach or counselor?
5. Can I find [...]
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We live on a cul de sac in a ‘safe’ city in Southern California. Our neighbors are polite and friendly. We all share vegetables from our gardens. Nobody speeds. We are all conscious of the nine children living in the four houses at the end of the circle.
We are middle class with middle class values [...]
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