There’s a great deal of advice floating around our there – “ten tips for lovers;” “what to buy so you don’t look like you’re buying her off;” “create a dreamy evening just for him” – all good, all doable. But we had to ask (it’s our job) this: “what does Valentine’s Day really have to do with our marriage?”
Here’s a couple of thoughts to add to your kitchen drawer clippings:
♥ Recognizing that you actually do love someone is a gift in itself (if you tell them).
♥ Claiming your love for them is an action verb.
♥ Listening to the one you love without interruption or analyses for 10 minutes is better than chocolate (but of course, chocolate is good)
♥ If you want to buy something for the one you love, buy (and give them) time.
♥ If you want them to feel cherished, spend 10 minutes telling them every thing you cherish about them.
♥ Make them oatmeal with raisins and honey.
♥ Sit close and hum a song they like.
♥ Read a poem by Rumi.
♥ Take a nice long early morning walk.
♥ Gently touch their face and tell them how beautiful they are.
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Hugs all around,
Stephen
Stephen W. Frueh PhD
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Stephen W. Frueh M.Div, PhD is a couples’ coach, mentor, leadership consultant, writer and speaker. He lives with his wife and eleven year old daughter in Ventura County, California.
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“I receive your email notices and enjoy them. Some of it isn’t appropriate as I have no “significant other” and haven’t for a long time (yikes – 17 years), but what you have to say is full of essence and of value to me. What made me write is your last post – I really like it – focusing on someone neglected – loving instead of looking for romance, etc. That really resonates. Thank you!”
Barbara Watts- Robinson
“This is very profound Stephen; great advice for every day.”
Gideon Grunfeld, NSA/GLAC President