This post is in response to the Stephen’s post Get rid of that Picture
This blog “speaks to me;” what’s more, I found myself about 20 times in it. So, at the risk of shamelessly self-referencing (but with full-disclosure that I am the author’s wife – no doubt there were a few moments when he was actually referencing me as well), here are the words/concepts of Stephen’s blog that struck me.
Middle aged
Stressed Dressed Obsessed
Forgetting to transition from business mode to mom/wife/hearth-and-home-steward
Overly directive
Cold
(For the record: the dog never backs off)
The Blink! snapshot is pretty high resolution, in all its not – very warm and fuzzy glory.
Lest I spiral down to the depths, I’m reminded that Stephen’s blog is a reminder – to get present, to be present. To embrace the quiet evening with my family, husband and 11-year-old daughter: simple, lovely dinner, homework, maybe a game of chess? To welcome the spontaneous visit of grown son and 3 yr old curly top grandson who implores me to “pick oranges with him (the blossoms are in full bloom – the bees are drunk – we’re all heady with the fragrance) and make juice” , sticky, sweet, delectable nectar of the gods.
Transition.
Dump the work gear, work head.
Breathe.
Cook.
Bring on a little Currier & Ives.
Lynn Comley PsyD. Is a mother, a wife, a marriage and family therapist, and an EMDR specialist. She is available for consultation by phone and email as well as in person and can be reached at 805 583 0821.
Stephen W. Frueh M.Div, PhD is a couples’ coach, mentor, leadership consultant, writer and speaker. He lives with his wife and eleven year old daughter in Ventura County, California.
You can email Stephen on stephen@marriageconversation.com or use our contact form.
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She is not cold but she can be cold. So can I. S.